With online social networks becoming more and more integrated into our real lives, past relationships are no longer just in the past. If being protective of my sanity and peace of mind is seen as being insecure so be it. Believe me, I struggle with this but honestly, if he is telling you that he is hanging out with her and still speaks to her there is nothing to hide. What is the vibe like? I am in California and he is Illinois, but hopefully he will be able to move out here in a few months. She will call late at night because she can't get her daughter to sleep and will blame it on him or expect him to do something about it over the phone. Jealousy is a very common feeling. If your boyfriend thinks nothing of his ex, he should have no problems meeting his ex with you in his arms.
So i see him today after two weeks and ask how things are going and he said good. Asks me to stay behind? I found myself clicking through his Facebook photos to find pictures of two of them together. That happened all in email. He has yet to disclose this to me personally. She probably wants to see him.
So when I found all this out, I felt it was just too disprespectful and asked him to have her stop reaching out to him. There are times when you break up because you were not compatible but still liked each other. I need ur opinions guys, thanks so much September 10, 2014, 11:41 pm yes please help here. I am his second love. This goes hand-in-hand with the previous question. Foley 10 — great idea with the futon! The Daily Dot: Some Cards Featured Image Courtesy. I know he still loves her more than anything and is just using me but how do I move on when I love him more than anything….
They have three grown kids who struggle to keep up their own lives financially. He hasn't actually seen his ex in a few years they live in different states but they do talk on the phone every now and then. If they wind up betraying your trust, then you will deal with it. I don't want to insult you, I just want you to see another point of view. Perhaps it is innocent, but the fact that he is hiding this relationship is cause for concern. And you know what, I still dont think he has cheated, nor do I believe she even wants him back.
Sometimes doing so especially before you have even commited to each other realistically causes unecessary issues and anxiety. Also, I found out that she sent him a picture of her private area and he sent one back in return. Are you just a rebound or are you someone he truly loves? I can tell he wants back with his ex. They also spend time together as a family. I don't know why this bugs me so much. Real, non-romantic friendships can totally form out of the ashes of a past relationship. He obviously has some physical things in mind.
I do have a choices dump him or try and see if I can get him to come. And we need to move into a two bedroom apt for more room so we dis that when i was 6 months prego. I'm kind of in the same kind of situation only I don't have any children of my own. And refused to stick to boundaries that we would agree on at an earlier time. I asked it and then he said he will discontinue his profile. Maybe they started dating, realized their feelings were mostly platonic, and decided to remain friends. It makes me cry how much he tried.
Last night, I told him that I am going to really try to come around to her and get to know her in order to ease the tension, and make myself less insecure. If you tell your boyfriend that his actions make you feel jealous, insecure, or nervous, then you have every right to expect him to change his actions especially if you are supported with an objective perspective! It did reveal though that he is trusting and not possessive, which in turn I just found more attractive. Is there anything different I can do? He did try to deflect and remain distant, but she kept going and told him she can't help that she cares deeply for him and and she will always be there for him if he needs someone she divorced him 3 years ago, but left him and their daughter alone for two whole summers while she pursued her career options during their marriage - so no, she does not care deeply for him. A lot of hurtful things were said that I unfortunately can not apologize for now. I am okay with it because of the details. Therefore, it is absolutely understandable that you feel uneasy and worried about your boyfriend's friendships with his exes because having to deal with your partner's past is an unpleasant experience anyway.
I dont want to be his rebound girl. I believe only the love we remember or have from our own immediate family truly matters. She and I were pretty good friends while he was still dating her. So why am I so bothered? The fact is that just about any high-quality guy out there is going to have ex-girlfriends. I've told him many times how unhappy this makes me and he should ignore her unless her communication directly concerns their kid. They are a package deal. He is not above reproach here, he should have told her up front.
We broke up a month and a half ago. Should I still take the approach you gave in the article and just accept the friendship and deal with my concerns on my own or is this a deal breaker? Understanding they have children together but why is she calling about every little thing with the kids. How do we deal with it? But different strokes for different folks. Made me think that he wanted it to be him she was having his baby with. I found a song he wrote about her about how he would take her back. I know how this is going to end. I'd only be concerned if the relationships were toxic, which I could say about any interaction of people I care about i.