We want to try and make it work. We are best friends and lovers, and even tho I am not attracted to him I love him. Lately he has been asking me how he looks and if I'm attracted to him, which is a big no. I encourage him to be more confident about his looks. You should also try to stand up for him, or cut these negative people out of your life. I never have to obsess over how great we look as a couple.
Your past is none of his business and has nothing to do with him. We often underestimate how rare it is to find someone who loves us unconditionally Second, ask yourself if your boyfriend — despite your middling attraction for him — can make up for it in bed. They will be celebrating five years together soon, 3. He tells me that he really loves me. Have you consistently made bad dating decisions before? In the beginning of our relationship 2-3 months he would expect me to pay for dinner to show him that I am thankful every once in a while. Just because you are in a relationship with another person does not give them carte blanche on knowing everything about you.
Good luck, and I hope some of the advice posted here is helpful to you! She didn't even say it in a joking manner. It is none of their business and only causing problems. So, maybe if you can get him to break up with you, he won't be hurt. Familiarity can help, like just staring at his picture, but it seems that would have helped by now. Trade that monkey in for a man. But the more I got to know him and his personality, I became more physically attracted to him.
I know your boyfriend said it didn't matter but just put yourself in his position, I'm sure you'd tell him it didn't matter but deep down, of course it would. These guys also know how to love their girlfriends just the way they are. You find beauty in your partner automatically so he say that he loves you and also say that you are not pretty both different ways lady, I am afraid he can be anything disappear person. Sorry this was so long. I hope everyone tones it down a bit.
The people who supposedly love you should support you. There's someone for everyone and he's obviously not the one for you. Were legs really the deal-breaker? And yes i feel bad about being shallow. Damn, he sounds like a child from what I wrote. To be fair he doesn't do this frequently, but when he does get into it---it just goes on.
Attraction goes deeper than looks. Unlike her other, more traditionally handsome, boyfriends he treats her well and seems to be able to find work. I could also see he was well dressed, had a cute smirk, and was a few inches taller than me. What are you expecting him to do now? I have had a lot of people abuse me, rape me, bully me, all kinds of stuff. My question is, how can I not let this get to me? You wouldn't have ended up with him if you didn't feel a connection with him, if you didn't find him attractive, if you didn't care. I never realized how much fun I was missing out on until I met my current boyfriend.
Many girls are much hotter than you. Maybe because they make these comments you feel like they think you can do better, so you don't feel like it's good enough for them. When you need to make a post for yourself, not necessarily for advice, or to answer questions, but to get it off your chest, we'll be here to listen and, if you want, to talk. That's when he started to say that he thinks I'm pretty now. That overly persistent chasing is not healthy if you are complaining to your mom about it. You gave some specefics but there is nothing wrong with that as it wasnt slanderous or wontonly devious. My problem is not just the lack of attraction but the lack of intimacy.
If you love him, fond him physically attractive yourself, have a good relationship and he treats you right then awesome. It took me a long time to feel like I had a say in who I dated when I was a teenager. Advice wise would be when the issue is in front of you nip it on the butt. Besides, if you find a new boyfriend, it's not like he'll be a particularly nice guy just because he's good looking. He's just an extremely likable person. The problem is that when we compare people side by side, great catches often lose out. After a few disputes he realized that paying for dinner is a gentlemanly kind of thing to do and me having to pay was never brought up again.
Like it or not there is still a double standard where it is ok for men to have lots of conquests, but not ok for a woman to be nailed that many times. I imagine no woman his age would deal with his behavior and thats why he dates younger women. I mean you could date the hottest guy in the world and he can be a huge asshole. If it's something you can overlook, great, if not, please don't live a lie to yourself or him because you'll both wind up hurt as a result! If you're both attracted to each other physically and mentally though I don't see it being much of an issue at all. But I just want the whole entire experience to be wonderful from beginning to end.
I was in a bad mood about something, and he teased me as a total stranger and got me to laugh, and I found myself infatuated with his personality. I'm positive he won't cheat on you because you are his main focus and I don't think another girl would go after him. May you always enjoy the happiness that you both deserve. She is hot as shit, dude. And this is the guy who treats you like gold, makes you feel special, and absolutely adores you.