My husband has a very stressful job, but it has allowed us to have me at home for the past 15 years. Either that ask him to play on certain days. You need to call him out on what he's not doing. I dont know what to do, or how to approch it, most of the time i feel like yanking it out of the wall and throwing it over the balcony. I understood this was his hobby and passion. Football He doesn't play it like it use to and I am so glad cuz it would drive me nuts but I can honestly say at least he was at home and not out and about. After I go to bed hubby will stay up playing games a while.
Do any of you girlfriends out there find that your boyfriend spends entirely too much time playing video or computer games? I'm 31 and feel like a single mother sometime. The husband joins one of our raids but there is a set in stone schedule that has been agreed on, and even so, it's still when his kids are in bed. I deserve to have some help. I've been with my boyfriend for three years, and lately we've been fighting a lot, mostly because all he ever wants to do is play video games. But then, he includes me.
We used to alternate weekend days to sleep in, and i think we should start doing this again. He's obsessed - plays for hours at a time and even has a designated day of the week every week when guys come over to play with him and this lasts for 6 or 7 hours , goes to tournaments at least monthly there's three he's going to this month, one of which is for three days and out of state , watches videos of people playing in his free time, takes notes on how to play better, actively posts on forums about the game, and has spent so much money playing this game. I just don't agree with the running theme that an 18 year old boy shouldn't be playing games. I don't mind it but it does get annoying sometimes. He is at home with his family, not out doing whatever with his friends all the time although he does play frisbee golf on Sundays for 2 hours, but thats his friend time. That is spending time together and you can talk while doing these hobbies. We play together all the time.
Perhaps if you can communicate with him in a understanding way about what you need from him and if you can understand that he needs time to unwind when he gets home you can come to some type of agreement. I try to pick times when everyone is starting to go to sleep. So, apparently my rude comments cured him of it and I'm soooo glad. On the other end of things, I finally decided instead of being pissed about what he wasn't doing with me or our kids that I would find my own hobby outlet to nurture who I am. Just enjoy your family while you have them.
The only way to curb this one is put a timer on it. I do understand this on a different level as you-because you still have little ones around whom needs their dads attention. Lots of responses in such a short time! I have dated a few adult 'kids' and one was terrible about playing video games. But if the kid needs something, or if I need something, he'll stop. My boyfriend and I play very different video games and don't often play together, but the fact that we both play brings immediate understanding, not to mention it's good for enforcing me-time I get to play my games, he gets to play his and togetherness time when one watches the other play or we both play the same game, or we both watch a stream. I used to think I was getting angry about the lack of help with chores, but I realized it's not that.
I know the sound is cool while playing, but as a stadby chick it is so annoying another bummer. It doesn't mean they should never be played. So my husband of 5 years is my dream guy. That is indicative of a serious mental health problem that needs addressing and you should be frank with him about your concerns for his health. He used to play World of Warcraft online, but switched from that to the 360. I can't imagine what it's like to have a spouse that is either too clueless to know what needs to be done or does know but doesn't give a shit. My husband is 45 and works swing shift.
We have a three year old daughter who of course needed lots of attention. I like to read and that is how I relax, he relaxes by gaming. Henrickson-Dear Omg I went online this morning 8am to see if any other women are experiencing this foolishness too and it drives me so crazy when there's things to be done in the house or he has that damn headset on and can't even hear how loud he really is or when he plays from sun up to sun down, I'm big on conspiracy theories and illuminati and symbloism and I research symbolism in video games and all call of duty games have a lot of symbolism it it, and I really don't want him to play but he's addicted now and the whole spill about atleast he's home and not out , please first of all your a grown man with kids you shouldn't need a game to do the right thing it just irks me all the way around Hi- I do understand what you are going through-but my situation is a little different. I had no idea what he was talking about. However, when I invited him to watch a movie with him today, he rejected it and said maybe next week. I am due to have our second child in 3 weeks and I'm with the other poster, I think I may throw the thing. According to the , video game withdrawal may cause mood problems that make it difficult for addicts to interact with others in a healthy way.
Originally he was a computer game, then he had the Xbox 360 and I told him the games were too violent and I didn't want our daughter hearing or seeing it. I just want you to see the bigger picture. I'm just not sure what to do about the way I feel when my boyfriend plays video games all day. Since this is the only thing he will do anymore I started playing too. Don't let him pull you down with him, get out there and experience new things and if he won't go with you it might be time to go your seperate ways. Am I alone in this? The fact is, no matter how much he likes video games he needs to spend more time with his family or lose his family.